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I received an incredible email today from a dear friend of mine who is someone I greatly appreciate, admire, and respect. She sent me a recent article by Lisa Jimenez M.Ed. (www.Rx-Success.com)

The Power of Self-View

I started wondering what would drive Lance Armstrong to come back out of retirement, through cancer, public breakup, media issues and lots of negativity and get back on that bike…

It’s his “Self-View.”

If you had to come up with 3 words to describe how Lance Armstrong “sees” himself, what would you say?

I came up with: Cyclist. Athlete. Champion.

And it’s this very “Self-View” that drives him to get back on a bike and take on his 8th championship in the Tour de France.

It’s the same with you.  Your “Self-View” creates the driving force behind your  actions and your lack of actions.  Your “Self-View” is the very force that causes others to follow you, respect you, leave you or deny you…

If I asked you to describe yourself in 3 words, what would you say?  

No amount of training, coaching, studying or learning will cause you to manifest  your goals until you first SEE yourself as the “goal” in which you desire.  YOU make your SELF-VIEW!  And you make your life through your “Self-View”…

What about you?  How do you see yourself?  And what are the 3 words that best describe your ”Self-View”?  ~ Lisa Jimenez

How to Shift Your Self-View

I applied Jimenez’ three steps to shift your self-view to my own personal experience.  What about you?  Can you apply these three steps to your experience?

Step #1:  Tell the Truth

Take some time to do a self-assessment or self-inventory.  What beliefs are you holding onto that are holding you back?  Are you living in the past, present or future?  What you think about you bring about, so what limiting thoughts are taking up all the real estate between your ears?

Describe your life as it is right now.  Is it everything you always dreamed of or are you stuck in a rut – doing the same things over and over again expecting different results.  What do your personal relationships look like?  Are you stuck in a dead end job that you have no passion for ?  Are you headed in the direction of your life passions, dreams and joy? Or are you stuck in a state of miserableness?

When I first took the Passion Test in early April, I had to do this self-assessment.  In order to get where I want to be, I first had to figure out exactly where I was in the present moment.  What was working, what wasn’t working, what changes I needed to make in my thinking.  If I kept thinking “no one wants to read what I write” there’s no way for me to become the “wildly successful writer” that I want to become.  I seriously had to shed that way of thinking!

Nearly four years ago, I was stuck in a repeated cycle of dating jerks, turds and assholes.  I’m pretty sure that there was a neon sign on my forehead that said “date me if you’re a jerk!”

Step #2:  Let go of your old “Self-View” and habitual patterns.

The day I figured out that I was tired of dating the same line of jerks, turds and assholes is the day I figured out that I had to become the person I wanted to be with.  If I wanted to be with a man of integrity, a man who was committed to excellence and always did his best, then that’s who I also had to become.  How else was I going to attract that kind of man into my life?

I let go of my old patterns of bad behavior.  For years it was ingrained in my head that  I just wasn’t good enough.  

Right.  

I told myself, “You ARE better than good enough and you deserve to spend the rest of my life with someone who was better than good enough as well.”

Step #3:  Create a new “Self-View” that would generate the type of action and way of being needed to accomplish your goal or attract into your life what you need/want.

 For me to attract the man I wanted to be with for the rest of my life, I had to become that person.  I reaffirmed three core values that I allowed to slowly erode and compromise during my first marriage.  

• Intergrity
• Commitment to Excellence
• To Always Do My Best

Six weeks after clearly stating who I wanted in my life and under what circumstances, Richard re-entered my life after a 25 year hiatus.  He is the love of my life, the man of my dreams, my first, my last, my everything (Thanks Barry White).

Your self-view affects every aspect of your life.  Your self-view determines how far you go in life.  As Henry Ford said, “Whether you think you can or think you can’t, you’re right.”  

Where’s your self-view taking you today?